May 22nd, 2015
Happy for the Rain
Yesterday I was very happy for the rain. Working from home and living alone has changed my physical interactions with the rest of the world.
After 5 hours of virtual meetings in a row, I took a break to grab coffee with a friend. When I arrived at his office, it was raining lightly and I had to walk about two blocks in the drizzle. I was so happy! I was happy that I could feel nature and be in nature and enjoy it.
However, spending so much time alone has had the opposite impact on physical contact that I used to enjoy. See, I used to be a “hugger” – the type of person who hugs everyone they meet. I enjoyed giving great hugs to anyone I had an interaction with.
Now, the story is much different. I still really love hugging my family and close friends. I still enjoy physical contact with those I love. I am also happy to give a greeting/parting hug to acquaintances.
Any other physical contact rubs me the wrong way.
I don’t enjoy people touching me while they talk, or even getting too close while they talk. I don’t want to hug someone I just met. It is an interesting shift that has been happening to me the past few months.
It started with an article I read about respecting the space of others and only hugging them if they want a hug, because you never know their backstory or why they don’t like to be touched, so you should pay attention to how they feel. Then, I started to pay attention to how others feel and how I feel about it. Long story short, I enjoy keeping my personal space in tact.
This is yet another example of how everything in my life comes in waves. Things I love become things I don’t and things I don’t love become things I do. I am constantly grateful for life and all of the changes it provides.
Yesterday, as we walked to our cars after coffee, the drizzle was still there, with a slow, wonderful breeze. My friend turned to me and said “The weather is great today!” with full seriousness. I completely agreed.