Saying “No” So You Can Say “Yes”
August 6th, 2015
Becoming a super productive and efficient person does not mean that you will magically have time to do everything you’ve ever wanted to do all at once. Sometimes, you have to say “no” to some things so that you can say “yes” to others.
Recently, I’ve had to say "no" to a couple of different things in my life so that I could say "yes" to what I know is right. I absolutely loved being part of a dance group. But when a decision was made that my girlfriend could not be part of the support staff because she is female, I realized I had a choice to make. I could continue to do something I loved, or I could say “no” to the things that don’t match my values so that I could say “yes” to being true to myself. Even though the decision was finally overturned (it is 2015 after all, how was that decision even contemplated?) I realized that I no longer want to be a part of gender-specific organizations. While I understand that many people find them beneficial and helpful, I find them discriminating. That is the beauty and wonder of life. Things that can be such a great help to one person can be such a hurt to another. So, I left my all-female dance group. There are many days I miss it and the people in it. But I know that for me, saying “yes” to the values I hold – namely that men and women should be treated with equality, is more important to me and ultimately makes me feel better.
The new freedom in my schedule has also opened up time for some things I have been consistently putting off. You may know about my Project Closet from earlier posts. I had put every organization project from around the house into one large two-sided closet. A few weeks ago, I moved all of my clothes into that same closet. It got pretty packed to say the least. On Monday, I tackled a huge project I had been putting off for years, organizing my Mardi Gras beads! It feels so freeing to finally have this project at a good stopping point! It also left one half of the closet clear.
Yesterday morning, one of the groups I am a part of started a decluttering challenge. While it may seem like I would have no need for this because when you walk in my house it is open and free and everything has a place, I also have a huge project closet that I would love to no longer have on my to do list.
This week, I made a major realization. If I make time to commit to clearing out my project closet, it will be done! I know that sounds simple, but here is what I mean. Most projects in life will continue on indefinitely until I choose to stop them. I will always meet with clients and continue to meet with new clients, something I love to do! I will always need to clean the house, do the laundry and do the dishes. I will always want to spend time with friends. I will always be creating new products. But I don’t always need to take time to deal with the storage pile I call project closet. That is one project that can end.
This week, a few cool opportunities have arisen. I have found many entrepreneur education sites that I would love to participate in and enjoy all of the trainings. I have also been invited to join some pretty cool business programs that would offer really low-cost coaching. So, I sat down to think about what is really important to me and I realized that the idea of having all of the mementos from my past being made into photo books and then physically cleared out of my life is so much better than putting off this project for any other amazing opportunity offered to me right now.
The thing is, clearing out my past will end and once it does, I will have the time for new amazing opportunities that arise. This week, I chose to say “no” to many things so that I could say “yes” to taking care of myself and my belongings so that in the future I can have more room in my life for the things I love!