April 24th, 2015
Outside-In or Inside-Out
I made it to the end of the week! Yay! I didn’t start this blog with the intention of writing every day, but it sure is nice to have a place to almost instantaneously share the things I learn about myself and the world around me.
See, I have lots of different types of writing underway. I’m currently working on my second book about efficient life management using the system I created, MINTOA™. I’m also constantly writing posts and video blog scripts about home organization and productivity. But each of these types of information sharing seems to come with a level of professionalism that the perfectionist in me is constantly critiquing. It seems like an idea has to be really amazing to turn it into an article, video or book. This blog feels totally different for me. Like I can say anything.
So here is today’s thoughts… Should you have an inside-out mentality or an outside-in one? Sometimes things come into your life in crazy ways and this concept was an example of that for me. One day (two days ago) I started reading “The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People”. It came so highly recommended and so far I can see why. The author starts out by discussing the idea that we need to focus on the inside of ourselves (very similar to the Core Values section of MINTOA) so I was on board. He says that we need to constantly work on our inside and improve it before we can improve the outside. Makes Sense.
But then, that night, I was watching “The Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt”. Slight plug here (again not paid) this show is great. It is super cute and truly hilarious without being offensive (to me). It is rare for me to find a show like that. It has made me really happy and I am actually watching TV each night, which is something I haven’t done in years. I try my best to surround myself with positivity, including what I watch/read. That said, if you have a happy TV recommendation, please let me know!
Anyway, the craziest thing happened while I was watching, they started talking about an outside-in approach. It was kind of surreal because it was the exact opposite of a theory I had learned earlier that day! It even had the same name. This theory is that if you project positivity outwards in your expression and body posture, the positivity will find its way inside and transform your mood/life.
These occurrences got me thinking… Can’t it be both? Or rather, shouldn’t it be both? I hadn’t thought of it in the inside-out outside-in mentality before, but now it makes sense to me, both ways. Not only should I constantly be working on myself on the inside, spending time to reflect on my core values and what is really important to me, then going forward and living my life on the outside to match that, but also I should be focusing on projecting positivity on the outside, to constantly remind myself of the bright side and allow that to flow in.