April 22nd, 2015
The Optimistic Side of a Break Up
That’s where I’m at. Truthfully, I’ve never had this aspect before, so I cannot be sure how long it will last or if it is even real. I’m not optimistic because I am happy that I broke up with my girlfriend or because she is in any way a bad person. She is amazing. She gets me. We are so compatible in so many ways. We have so much fun and we laugh together. A lot. I saw her last night and even though we are just friends at this point, none of that has changed.
I am optimistic right now because this time, for the first time, I am choosing to believe that I will find someone again with all of her amazing qualities. If you have ever known me through a break up, you know that it usually doesn’t go well. There is a lot of crying and feeling bad for myself and it often extends far past that imaginary rule of “it should take you half of the time you were with someone to get over that person.” Usually it is a nightmare. I’m not saying the nightmare isn’t coming, I’m just saying that’s not where I’m at right now.
In the past, I would subscribe to the mentality that I would never meet someone again with x, y, and z qualities or someone who would a, b, and c. The list of great things my ex did would somehow never be matched. Of course, that could be true. But we don’t know. So this time, I’m choosing to believe I will meet someone again with x, y, and z qualities and who loves to a, b, and c. Plus, the few reasons why my ex and I ended it? Well, those won’t be a problem with the new person, because we will be even more compatible than I previously thought possible. Maybe. Again, who knows?
I do know one thing, though. Choosing to view everything in this light has made everything a lot easier. So far.