There was a 13-page application packet that came during the orientation. It was very thorough and asked tough questions. They said it was better to divulge all information up front so that it can be discussed, rather than leave it out and wait for it to come up later. There are many rounds of background checks in the process, so if you have skeletons, they are likely to be found.
The questions ask about your health history, your mental health history and any legal history. Even down to your traffic tickets. One thing I appreciated about the form was the disclosure that in the adoption process they will make a big effort to understand everything about you and to share everything about your prospective children. Thus, there are many topics that are not normally seen as appropriate conversations with strangers, that will be addressed in the process and that we need to be comfortable talking about.
While filling out the application, I was filled with immense gratitude. I was grateful for the #paperworkchallenge last year during which I reorganized all of my paperwork throughout my entire life. Because of my “Past apartments and vehicles” binder, I was easily able to find every address I’ve had for the past five years. I was also extremely grateful for my new job which allows me to have financial flexibility. The packet requires you to outline your income and detail your expenses to calculate the remaining amount each month.
I feel lucky and grateful to be starting a process that aims to make sure I am completely qualified to be a parent before I become one.