Step 1 - Move Back Home
Everyone’s adoption journey is unique to them. My adoption journey started with moving back home.
My mother says that I have been talking about adopting since I was five years old. I’ve been looking into plans and steps for years. I’ve been using the Law of Attraction and visualization to create spaces for children in the apartments I’ve lived in.
Last year, I made the decision to move back home.
Home means so many things to so many different people. Last summer, when I went to visit my parents in the place I went to high school, I also visited many of my old friends. I hadn’t seen some of these friends in years and yet we were able to pick up right where we left off as if no time had passed. Being with them felt like home.
In New Orleans, I had a wonderful support system around me. However, once I started dating women, the support changed. It didn’t disappear, but it just felt different. The way people treated me and talked to me was not the same. During that same trip to my parent’s house, marriage equality was passed on the national level. The last state to comply? Louisiana.
I decided that if I am going to have children and also date women, I would like to live in a community that supports those two simultaneous decisions. In St. Petersburg, I have found that community. I am very lucky because that community is also very close to the people who make me feel like I’m home.
For me, the first true step in my adoption journey was to move back home. I am so glad I did. On Sunday, I spent Easter with the family I love: my parents, my grandmother, my brother and my cousin.
I finally feel like I am home.